Everybody has witnessed a situation in which we got really dissapointed. Whether it be in friendship, love or something else. After this, we, very logically, try to avoid the same situation from happening again. An emotional wound is created. Your guard goes up, You're building walls and sometimes enter into a negative thought pattern as we tend to remember the things that went wrong over the good experiences. It thus gets harder to trust again.
But wounds dont heal by acting like they aren't there. By ignoring the pain. They heal through recognition, love and attention. A process that can be pretty painful , but needed.
In terms of trust. I've learned that it's not só much about learning how to trust others again. But more about switching the focus to learning how to trust YOURSELF, unconditionally. Learning to trust that you will be fine, that you are able to bring yourself back up if u fall down or if someone may hurt you. We can never completely predict or control how a person will treat us but we are always in control of our own reactions and behavior. Sometimes, painfull situations arise because our soul needed to experience it in order to grow. In order to be stronger. This notion helps to accept whatever has happened and also to leave it behind. Have patience with yourself and learn how to be your best friend and healer at all times.
Life is a beautifull blessing full with golden opportunities and magical experiences for us to discover. Ready for you to glow up once we have opened our eyes for it. And that means learning how to drop your guard, to open up and basically to trust again that you are capable and worthy of receiving this.
Once you've managed that, you'll see that the rest follows more easily :)